She’s So High Above Me..

Remember that song by Everclear?

She’s so hi–gh, high above me, she’s so lovely.. She’s so hi–gh, like Cleopatra, Joan of Arc or Aphrodite..

I used to feel so threatened by that song. I figured I could never be the woman who made her man feel  like he didn’t deserve her. Like she was so much higher than any of his wildest dreams or expectations. How silly is that? Of course I could be that woman! As Christian women, we do the same…

Most of us already know the power of a woman but one of my favourite pieces of the bible goes to a lot of effort to show the magnificent, beautiful strength and power a Godly woman possesses. Yet it’s a passage which many women feel intimidated by and even discouraged. It’s one which has, unfortunately, at times been used wrongly.

It is Proverbs 31:10-31. The story of the ‘Proverbs 31 woman’.

Please don’t sigh and stop reading. I know you’re tired of having a check-list to live up to. I know you’re tired of not living up to it. But Proverbs 31 is not meant to be discouraging or to make us feel bad about ourselves. It’s not meant to be something we compare ourselves with.. and then use to harshly judge our performance. In fact, it’s meant to do the opposite; the story of the Proverbs 31 woman was, I believe, written to encourage, uplift and empower us. You see, if God created the ‘Proverbs 31 woman’ and if God created you and me, doesn’t that mean she’s within all of us? If the ‘Proverbs 31 woman’ is kinda like the perfect woman, then isn’t God moulding and strengthening us all to have her strengths in our own unique ways? Continue reading

One Industry, Millions of Victims

We haven’t really discussed porn on Every (1) Matters but if we’re trying to combat issues like Sexualisation and Human Trafficking, I think we need to address it. Pornography affects many sectors of society. From the children exposed to it years before they are ready (average age of first exposure to porn is 11), to the slaves forced to perform in the shoots, to the marriages breaking down due to porn addiction. No one is immune to the ill-effects of pornography.

Perhaps our main weapon in working against the cycles of Human Trafficking and Sexualisation is the power to deal with pornography in our own lives.

I know this is a big call but I wanted to at least put it out there…

Porn is a part of just about everyone’s life – whether we like it or not. Sources say 65% of men and 45% of women view pornography. So if it’s such a big problem, what can we do about it? Continue reading

I (ain’t) Got That Lovin’ Feelin’

We’re all busy and, as I was saying to a friend yesterday; after I’ve had a crazy hectic day with the kids, mentally exhausting day with work and the usual emotional ups and downs of being a woman, where on earth am I going to find energy or time for ‘that’? (‘that’ being certain after-hours activities conducive to a healthy marriage.. ) Continue reading

Wisdom For Marriage (from someone who knows!)

Amanda Ferguson was phenomenal at Sisterhood today. She shared wisdom gleaned from 34 years of marriage.

“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1

“I will meditate on Your precepts, and contemplate Your ways. I will delight myself in Your statutes; I will not forget your word.” Psalm 119: 15-16 Continue reading